November Mom Crush Monday
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You’ve heard the term “MCM” before, right? Well, on my blog, I give that term a different meaning.
On the first Monday of every month, I feature a fellow mom as my Mom Crush Monday, and allow them to share their own journey through motherhood.
Meet my November MCM: Vetta C.
This month, I’m featuring a beautiful mama of three who is as sweet as she is selfless. She is always the first to help fellow mamas in need and I absolutely adore her kind spirit! I’m so happy she has let me share her story with all of you!
How old were you when you became a mom?
- I was 18 when I became a mom to my first born.
How many kids do you have & what are their ages?
- I have three children, ages 8, 3, and 1 year old.
How was your pregnancy with each child? Birth experience?
- My first son was the best pregnancy I could have ever imagined! It went so smooth and I never had any complaints. It ended with an emergency a cesarean delivery. We are military, and my husband was deployed for most of my pregnancy with my second. He came back just in time, a week before my due date. I was depressed during this pregnancy, because it was our first deployment. My baby boy ended up a cesarean delivery as well. My pregnancy with my last baby I was so sick! I wanted a baby girl so bad and I was finally blessed with one beautiful daughter. After two cesarean deliveries, I wanted a VBAC so bad. Did I eventually have one with my baby girl? Unfortunately, the answer is no; I didn’t get my VBAC. Instead I was given a perfect, healthy baby girl and I healed perfectly (even the mommy belly).
Did you have any misconceptions about motherhood before you became a mom? How did your view of motherhood change after becoming a mom?
- One of the misconceptions I had before becoming a mom was that parents are supposed to be “PERFECT”. Depending on what your definition of perfect is, I will say no one has mastered it. My view has definitely changed after each child actually. I am so understanding and knowing that my children don’t see me as the person that has to have Pinterest meals or home decorated like HGTV, they just love me for the imperfect mother I am. We grow together and I learn to be a better mother than I was the day before.
What is your favorite piece of advice you’ve received about motherhood?
- The best piece of advice I received about motherhood was “the housework can wait”. This came at a point in time where my oldest was 5 years old so independent then BAM, we had a newborn just like that. It was so hard for me to transition, because I was already in a routine where I did everything on time everyday. With the youngest baby boy, I couldn’t just jump and do what I wanted, because he needed me. When I took this advice, I didn’t neglect all housework or never cooked a meal. What I did was learn time management all over again with our new arrival.
What challenges did you face during your first years as a mom?
- Lack of sleep. I was still in school, just graduating, when my first son was born. Even to this day I am fighting to get a nap in!
How has parenthood changed your relationship with your spouse?
- Parenthood has changed the way we spend time with each other. We’ve gotten creative over the years with how wisely we spend time together, alone. Also: teamwork makes the dream work! Some days you don’t agree on how the other parent dealt with a situation and you come together to find a better solution for the next time.
How have YOU changed since becoming a mom?
- I have more patience, love, and understanding of what unconditional love is. I’ve changed for the better with each day that I take a breath and can take care of them. I learned to chase my dreams no matter how far fetched they may be. Many years I wanted to become a photographer and never had any motivation or ambition. If I can have three children, I can follow my dreams.
What are your lifesavers as a mom?
- Let’s be real… Crockpot, naps, and coffee.
Top 3 baby products/brands you’d recommend?
- Shea Butter Moisturizer
- Baby Trend Double Stroller
- Old Navy (I literally shop there at least once a month)
How do you spend your time when you’re not busy being “mom”? (Hobbies, Interests, etc.)
- Photography (Blessed By Vetta Photography). I love being behind my camera. You can also find me at the nail shop or hair salon, going from hot mess to hot mama! I love to cook and bake as well!
What is one thing you wish you had done BEFORE becoming a mom?
- I wish I’d slept more and appreciated it. As you can see, this mama loves her sleep.
Favorite part about being a mom?
- Everything. Watching tiny human beings become the future of the next generation.
Most memorable “mom moment”?
- We are vegetarian, so my three year old son says he doesn’t like certain vegetables, like spinach or kale. So, I make a spinach, kale, mango and peach smoothie for everyone! He doesn’t know it and I grin to myself as he drinks two cups.
Any advice for new moms?
- You got this! Take it a day at a time. No one is perfect and we are always learning! Find someone you trust and ask questions. Get out and make friends that have the same interests as you do.
Who is your Mom Crush?
- Michelle Obama!
Do you have a “Mom Crush”? Ask them a few of these questions. It can really put into perspective just how different every woman’s journey through motherhood is!